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January 5, 2014

How To Remember Names


~ or recover gracefully, if you can't ~

I frequently forget someone's name. Even if we've just been introduced and I heard it moments before. I'm not worried about it being a serious issue, because it's happened all my life.


  1. The tips I've tried work fairly well...most of the time. Make a rhyme out of their name, silently to myself, which should help me recall it later.
  2. Try to immediately use their name while talking to them. "Oh, so and so, that's such a great place          to...blah, blah, blah".

Forbes recommends the five best tips to remember names are:

1- Meet and repeat.

2- Spell it out. Asking the person to spell their name for you. That's great if it isn't something very                 simple...like Mary!

3- Associate...in your mind... Joan from Jersey.

4- Make a connection. Connect them mentally with someone you already know with the same name.

5- Choose to care. Make a conscious decision to care to remember their name.

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No matter how many tools I use, at some point I will inevitably forget someone's name.
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I came across this wonderful tip, during my daily stroll through Pinterest, and thought I'd share it.



This won't work all the time, but it may help sometime.

Do you forget names like I do?

Have any tips you'd like to share?

35 comments:

  1. oh i do forget names! and it makes me mad b/c i used to be so good at remembering them. i hope i can remember this tip next time i need it. :)

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    1. That will be my challenge! Remembering the tip when I've forgotten the name :-)

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  2. this is great!! I am going to make an effort but having said that I rarely forget a face so I am good in one way but it is a useless talent if I have to ignore them out of embarassment!!

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    1. You are hilarious. Wish I had that memory!

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  3. I need this list, I am so bad for forgetting names! Though I am great with faces, I can recognize and remember faces of people I met once years ago. So strange!

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    1. Faces I'm great at too, I just have trouble attaching a name to it.

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  4. I like that "I've forgotten your name" tip. I also have one that works *sometimes*....bring someone else over and say "I'd like to introduce my friend Jane." Jane will then ask the other person's name. Sneaky yes, but sometimes I get away with it.

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    1. That's a good one idea. Sometimes sneaky works :-)

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  5. I need every trick in the book, I'm awful at names and will often forget as soon as the introductions are complete. I will often add someone new and say "please introduce yourselves, I'm so bad at introductions" and try to make mental notes the second time around. The pinterest tip is great, I hope to pull off that one.

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  6. Oh if someone used that Pinterest line on me I'd say " you forgot my name didn't you?" I think that's so obvious!

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    1. I'm not sure I'd find if obvious if someone used it on me :-). I would have forgotten I knew it by then.

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  7. I sometimes go completely blank even with people I know quite well. I find that the best thing to do is relax and hope that it pops back into my head.

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  8. I actually love the pinterest line! I don't care if people forget my name, but I do not listen properly at introductions and that is one of my worst character traits - I seem to be barely listening during the big intro. Something for me to work on for sure!!!!! Thanks for the tips!

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    1. I think you're right. I'm just not listening. It is a bad habit of mine too.

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    2. This is precisely my problem -- I have a very good memory for names and faces, but I find that I somehow tune out at almost *precisely* the moment when people actually give their names. I find the best tactic is to just say the next time I see them "Hi there, I know we've met but I can't remember your name and wanted to ask what it is again before it gets too ridiculously late to still be asking." Most people respond fairly well to that -- I think because it is a relatively common problem!

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  9. Saw this on IG and love it! Thanks for the tip:) I see my patients around town and it's always awkward when I can't recall their name. (It's an out of context thing I guess:) Happy Monday!

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    1. That would be tough because there's so many of them.

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  10. I just try to keep a sense of humor and hope every one else does. It's weird but years later I may forget the name but I do remember the first letter of the name…not sure why/how.

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  11. Great tips, Jennifer. I always forget names immediately after being introduced. UGH. I love the pinterest tip. Also, the rhyming might work well for me.

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  12. After teaching for 29 years I find the part of my brain that remembers names is full up. I love the Pinterest trick but it does remind me of a cute story.
    A couple of years ago, students in my grade 9 English class were signing their parents up for Parent-Teacher interviews later that week. A boy, let's say his name was Jason, approached my desk and said his mum wanted an interview appointment with me. This was early in the fall...and I couldn't remember if his mother's last name was the same as his. So I wrote a time down on the sheet and before I wrote in her name, I said,"How's 6:30 Jason? And does your mum go by the same name as you?"
    He gave me a disgusted look, rolled his eyes as if he couldn't believe my stupidity and said,"NO!"
    Then the penny dropped for me...."I mean your last name, silly."
    "Oh," he said in a small voice...."well, in that case yes she does."
    I still laugh every time I think of that story.
    Love your blog, by the way.

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  13. That's hilarious!! Kids are so honest and straight forward. And thank you Sue :-)

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  14. No, I don't forget names - in fact I am cursed with a memory for names that lets me remember people I'd rather not - and people who have no idea of what I'm talking about - or worse....think I'm a mad woman. Example - in an airport I see a woman and know that she was in my Grade three class (yes, you read it right). I ask, 'aren't you Deanna G from Mlle Giroux's Grade Three class?' The poor woman looks at me as though I'm crazy and says 'yes I was in Mlle Giroux's class, but I have no idea who you are'. When will I learn?!!

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  15. Jennifer dear-I love this trick!! I always find myself so enamored with the lipstick or eyes or shoes that I'm not catching the name. Love this. Yes, yes-we must meet sometime when I am in the city. Would love it!
    xx, Heather

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  16. This is very clever as a solution -- I have a tough time when I bump into students from anything over a year ago. They might have been favourites at the time, but since then, I will have learned and then deleted from my memory bank hundreds and hundreds of names. . . .

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  17. I love that last trick re: "No, your last name."

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  18. Thanks for the tips. I'm the winner when it comes to forgetting names and it happens so many times that it's so embarrassing. I hate when that happens but I'll use these ideas for sure.

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  19. My husband when he met me many moons ago remembered Jody by thinking "cup of Jo" then someone dropping the cup on me and me squeeling "eee". It worked! He still remembers my name 19 years later. Re-sult!

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  20. I love the last anecdote on how to remember a name/last name. I do try to remember people's names because my name gets mashed so much, but sadly I don't do a great job. Hoping your tips will help!

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  21. I'm always thinking up clever mnemonics and then forgetting the link: the whole Seinfeld rhymes with a female body part thing. I used to be so good with names; aging is ghastly.

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  22. I used to be perfect with names, until I started working as a doctor. Then, oops. Too many per hour I guess. Luckily I (almost always) still remember details about people. So I say, 'I am so sorry, I'm having a complete blank with your name and I don't know why because I *do* remember that we met at Emma's house just after your sister had had twins and you were learning to ice skate' and it usually goes OK. Still, embarrassing.

    That is a great tip!

    Philippa

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  23. Of course, I do. I always say, in my age I'm so happy to remember my own name, pls help me with yours. It works well, nobody was angry with me.

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