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May 21, 2014

Filling Your Heart With Joy


I spent last week with my only/first grandson, James.

I love my entire family, although there is that crazy Uncle ....  How I feel about this little fellow is something entirely different. My heart is simply overflowing with love for James. I can't think of another way to express the feeling.

Did I love my own children this much?  Of course I did, but it was love laced with concern. I stressed over the worries all parents have. Am I doing things right?  Are they doing what they should, when they should?

While my daughter-in-law was expecting, my friend Cindy, (already a grandmother) predicted I would be forever changed by his birth.  I admitted I would love him. Of course I would love him...but he's just a baby after all!  I thought she was a nutty and probably exaggerating.





I was totally unprepared for the intensity of my love for him. It didn't explode in my heart the day he was born, as it does for parents.

It grew...and keeps growing. Things may change a bit as he enters those inhuman stages all children seem to go through, but I doubt it.

Oh! ...were my children the only ones to do that?!   Lucky me :)  








I am insanely in love with this little fellow. My son and daughter-in-law tell me he loves his Granny.  I can't tell because he's not talking yet, but I'm doing all I can to be his favorite person in the entire world! 




I took Lucy up with me last week. James' first tug on a puppy beard was gentle and earned him his first puppy "kiss". 




There are so many firsts to enjoy. 




 I never knew my own grandparents because we lived on opposite sides of the country.

I feel so fortunate to live close enough to watch James grow and share some of these firsts.


James is army crawling all over the place these days, so Granny is arriving next week with this playpen equivalent. Cabinet locks and socket covers are already in place, but this little guy is really moving fast so to save sanity and prevent trips to an emergency room for stitches, this might come in handy.

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On an totally unrelated subject,  I had another post partially written on the kindness and unkindness of some blogger comments, when I read  this post by my friend Adrienne today.  It's called "How to be a Happy Blogger"   She has some terrific tips and you should pop over for a read.

In  retrospect, it's not really that unrelated.  It's about being happy, doing what makes you happy. Filling your heart with joy.

Life throws us all some curve balls.  It's how well we field or duck them, that helps determine our happiness level.  As a constant work in progress, I embrace all the tips, help and joy I can.  So if you have some to wisdom to share here, please do...I'm all ears!

What fills your heart with pure joy?

Can you arrange to do more of it?

42 comments:

  1. Jennifer, Love these photos. What a happy little guy. I especially love the hoody pic. I can so understand how you feel about him. My mom was and is the same with my sons...They can do no wrong in her eyes.They adore her back as well. I look forward to someday having this in my life too. I agree it's like all the good parts of parenting without the stress!! So glad you have him and he is lucky to have such an adoring granny.
    I agree that's what it is all about right? More joy. I think being with my family is my joy and with friends! Looking forward to our lunch. ooxo Kim

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    1. More joy is definitely what's driving my boat these days. See you next week!xoxo

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  2. Oh he loves you dearly! Just look at his expressions in each photo. :) What a wonderful post about Love.

    And for me, I can often find "pure joy" during floortime playing with my two dogs.

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    1. Oh yes, my dog is totally pure joy!! Women's best friend:)

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  3. Oh Jennifer, he is a doll! I look forward to that day, though I hope it is a few years away!

    As for blogger tips, I have none. I don't get many icky comments, but it is clear to me that they are almost always related to whether I've purchased something or if someone thinks I have more or less money than they think i should have!

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  4. Oh he's gorgeous and I can feel your joy for him in this post!
    I have to say it has been difficult to feel pure joy while worrying about my children, it's been more like pure anxiety. That love coupled with concern... I think I will feel the same way you do if I am ever blessed with grandchildren, I felt some of that visiting my nephew, joy without anxiety who knew?

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    1. I didn't know and I'm so delighted!! I remember the delight meeting my first nephew, 38 years ago!! I thought he was the most beautiful baby in the world!!

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  5. I can see why you're crazy about him. He's SO CUTE, and looks like a happy, sweet baby boy. Congrats to you and your family!

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  6. Good morning sunshine! Nice to see you with that wiggle in your walk and a bit of giggle in your talk. Baby boy would do that for anyone...he's so adorable. Life to me is joy. Do I take things for granted? Sure. But I do take the time to really dwell on all the joys I have been given and even some tough lessons I've received. Somewhere I read " Remember, some one is praying for things you take for granted. "

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  7. I SO UNDERSTAND YOU!!!
    He is sooooooooooooo wonderful

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  8. Oh my goodness! What a charmer;) I've seen some of your photos on instagram and can't believe how he's grown!! I am hopefully a few years away from the "grandparent" experience. As you say, it is supposed to be no less than spectacular in every way. I can't imagine.. it seems like I just finished raising my own and STILL recovering mentally (and financially/college!). There is so much worry with parenting and don't you wish we could all know that (most of the time) things WILL work out perfectly when it's all said and done?? Extended family is so important for our kids and grandparents always hold a special place in the heart. You are all so fortunate to be able to spend this time together. xxleslie

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    1. Thank you Leslie. It does feel like I went straight form raising my own to this joy. I worried about everything as a parent...but now it's just about love. I wish I'd been half as relaxed and wise when I was raising my own children. Enjoy your weekend!

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  9. Mom, we are so happy you are able to spend so much time with James. We love having you up here-Jenn constantly asks me when is Granny coming up again. We all love you, but especially James!

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  10. What a beautiful little boy! How wonderful that you live close enough to be in his life. Congratulations!

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  11. I agree it is a joy to have grandchildren. I have 2 boys and they are very precious.

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  12. He is a doll. So happy for you.

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  13. I look forward to this VERY MUCH......right now I have dogs and a puppy GRANDCHILDREN and I adore them so can only imagine the impact of having a real little baby to play with will feel!YOu are Very lucky they are close enough and you get to see him often!I look forward to the day I get to meet this little CHAMP!

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  14. I can relate to every word you wrote. I'm seriously smitten with Molly (my granddaughter). I felt the same way you did before her birth, knowing I would, of course, love her, but totally unprepared for the immense joy she brings to my life. I wouldn't trade this stage of life for being younger for any amount of money. Thank you for sharing your bundle of joy with us, I thoroughly enjoy each and every photo, espeically you funny instagram captions (you are one funny grammy).
    I did read Adrienne's post yesterday and loved it. As for wisdom on my end . . . I just say Enjoy each and every day to the fullest, you won't be able to recapture it once its gone. And for the unkind comments, I really don't understand those kind of individuals, why waste time sending negative vibes. I just push delete and forget about them. As for the kind comments, well, it's a start of great friendships, right?

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    1. Yes!! The kind comments open a door to friendships with kindred spirits. Your little darling granddaughter is so precious!!

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  15. Beautiful baby!! So nice for all of you that you live nearby.

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  16. It's funny bc I don't have a huge yearning for children and yet I have always wanted grandchildren. A lot of people question me but it is true. I had a particular fondness for my grandparents. They had a huge impact on me and dare I say just as much as my parents. I think it is fabulous that you and he is blessed to have this special brand of love. It is very precious!!

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  17. They sure creep easily into our hearts.. these grandchildren do! I never thought I'd be such a Nonna either! Our Willow is just 2.5months and she's soooooo clever.. counts in two languages.. sings umpteen songs.. knows just where her game is on my iPhone.. I cant believe it! The love she brings to me.. even tho I'm in Brisbane and they live in Sydney, we face time as often as we can.. I share her bathing, story reading, play at park times, baking, etc, and as often as I can.. I make it there.. they change life for sure! Enjoy your little fellow Jennifer.. he's joy! Thanks for this post.. great to share common loves..

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  18. What a cutie. Those feet! Give him a nice cuddle.

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  19. He is absolutely delightful -- and you're so right about the intensity of feelings for our grandchildren. I also love seeing my children as parents -- it unfolds a side of them we don't always get to see. . .

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  20. Such a lovely post, Jennifer...little James is adorable...I love his little shirt with a bow tie :) he's very lucky to have you as a Grandmother. Thank you so much for your lovely comments over on Leslie's blog very kind of you I really appreciate it :)
    Happy Weekend xx

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  21. He is adorable and looks so cute in his hoodie. It's surprising how many people say exactly the same thing about being a grandparent. The overwhelming love without all the worries which go hand in hand with parenthood .

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  22. Jennifer!
    How precious is your James!
    Those heart melting eyes!
    I have been a grandmother for almost three years now. Every visit is a blessing. Watching our children parent is a comforting feeling, and a reinforcement of the right choices we made while seeking our own self awareness.
    Blessed we are my friend!
    I am headed of to Adrienne's post!
    Have a wonderful weekend!
    withLove.

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    1. Your darlings are so adorable!! We are blessed!! Enjoy your weekend!!

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  23. What a precious little dude! Congratulations on this new love of your life!

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  24. Oh Jen, that photo is just too cute. He is such a happy little guy with that darling smile. Clearly he has already rocked your world in wonderful ways. I am thinking about how my mom (very young at 83-that newlywed ;) has had such a fun, loving relationship with her two grandsons. There is a sense of humor and fun they share that is adorable to see. I have a feeling that is exactly where you are headed with this little guy. As you know I started on my journey to have children too late in life, so it didn't happen, but I am hopeful that I will have some 'gma' times with the babies my step-daughters will have in the future.
    Enjoy your long weekend my friend!
    xx, Heather

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  25. What a precious little face! I have heard from everyone that being a grandparent offers all the heart-gushing advantages of being a parent, without many of the burdens and worries. I expect I have a few years to wait still (and glad of that)... my young men only 21 and 22 years old, but you remind me what there is to look forward to...

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  26. Oh. My. Gosh. He is absolutely adorable Jennifer! I can see why your heart gets all mushy over him. I swear, those little chubby feet and cheeks make me melt. I can't even imagine the joy of holding and loving and playing with a grandchild. I'm so happy for you...you've got a whole new exciting world ahead of you with James.
    I also want to thank you for the sweet, supportive comments you've left on my blog lately. Your words never fail to lift my spirits Jennifer, I'm serious. I've felt a kinship with you ever since that first post I read on your blog about your own relocation. I could really relate to your ambivalence and sentimental feelings at the time. It seems like we've had similar experiences lately, although I'm so glad to see you're settled in. And how wonderful that you're so close to family.
    I wish we lived closer, I'd come pick you up and take you to yoga with me. I think you'd be a blast to hang out with.
    xoxo
    Leslie

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    1. Thank you Leslie. The feeling is totally mutual. Your grace under fire is totally inspiring. It makes me want to reach deeper and challenge myself !! We would have a blast...and I would certainly love a yoga buddy kick start my program. I need to get back to my mat on a much more constant schedule. Sending hugs and encouragement. xoxo

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  27. Your grandson is so cute Jennifer and I think it's so interesting how you describe your love for him and that is so nice you're able to see him so often, especially because you weren't able to grow up near your grandparents I'm sure it makes it all the more special. (Now I think I know why my parents keep asking when we're having kids - they must want what you have too, hehe) Beautiful photos and I shared Adrienne's post too, it's such a great read, especially for bloggers ourselves. Have a great Memorial Day weekend.

    xoDale

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  28. The perfection of those baby toes! That's the stuff to fill my heart with joy. Reading of your pure and intense love for James does as well. And makes me smile.

    I will hop over to read up on what makes for a happy blogger, can always use another tip or two for more happiness.

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  29. Having two little grandchildren I totally agree. I love them to pieces! What is also fantastic is that my husband has this chance to experience a lot of the joy. We married and had our own children when we were young so he had to be very busy building a career and supporting the family while I cared for them. It is all brand new for him with the babies now that he has the time to appreciate it. We are very lucky!

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  30. My dear friend, your love for James is always so beautifully captured in your photos! i can't imagine how fabulous it must be to hold that wonderful child!

    xoxo
    Tamera

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  31. Oh, there is nothing like lovin' on a grandson, and you've captured that beautifully here. (Those toe photos! Gah!) I have two grandsons (6 and 3) and their baby bro will arrive in just a few weeks. They live 800+ miles from me, but the joy of being a grandma fades not the farther away we are from one another. And the times together? Sheer joy!

    Wonderful to "meet" you and your precious James, Jennifer.

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